Every single stage in life has a timeframe. Your childhood, your adulthood, your friendships, your marriage and your stay here on earth; they all have timeframes.
Let’s look at it this way: there is a stopwatch attached to all the stages in your life, and there’s virtually nothing you can do to hinder each stage from coming to an end.
Some things may seem as though they will last “forever”, such as being married to the perfect partner, or managing a successful company, but we have to remember that death still exists and it is the ultimate terminator of any stage in life. It can be heart breaking, obviously. When I was younger, I never really wanted to grow old. I knew I had a lot of responsibilities ahead of me and so I wanted to be a kid for the rest of my life; I was even unhappy during some of my birthdays. But then I realized that my wish to stay young was impossible, and my time to be a child was eventually going to wind-up.
Now that we have established the fact that nothing is going to last forever, let’s dive into some key aspects that we must remember while we still have life.
- Prepare yourself
Although one can never fully be ready for a tragic breakup, unexpectedly moving elsewhere or ending a friendship, it is still helpful to have a little bit of preparation. When I say be prepared, I don’t mean you should gear up and be “ready for battle”. What I mean is, be mentally prepared.
Go into every phase in your life knowing that it will eventually come to an end. Don’t be a pessimist, though, just be a realist.
When life brings you the bad times, perhaps struggling with high school, being broke, getting bullied, or battling with a disease, try not to worry too much about it, it’s all going to come to an end some day.
And even when life brings the good times too, be prepared. As much as you might wish to be a certain age forever, you can’t. As much as you want to be mama’s boy forever, you can’t. As much as you might wish to be 21 forever, you can’t. As much as might you wish to live forever, you can’t.
I’m sorry, there is no such thing as forever.
The moment you begin to prepare your mind and accept that every phase in life has a time to start and a time to end, you will be saved from unnecessary disappointment or sadness.
Be open to the fact that nothing in life is permanent. Life, itself, is not permanent.
- Be hopeful
I know this sounds a bit contradictory to the first point, but this is an aspect associated with the difficult and trying stages in your life. Are you unemployed? Are you diagnosed with a horrible illness? Are you struggling financially? Is your career crashing down? Be hopeful. Remember, I said that every phase in life has a timeframe; it doesn’t matter whether it’s a good phase or a bad phase.
You will face some overwhelming trials in life. Hard times are unavoidable, no matter who you are or what you have. There will be days whereby you’d feel completely hopeless and dismal, but you need to understand that those are the days you should say to yourself, “My situation is not permanent.”
No matter how tough life is right now, you have to remind yourself that no stage is interminable. The bible says in Romans 8:18 that “the sufferings of this present time is nothing compared to the glory that is to be revealed to us.”
Declare with your mouth that every hard phase in your life has a timeframe too, and they’re going to be over someday.
The good times are still yet to come, whether it will be here on earth or beyond.
- Accept it when phases end.
There are many people who have come into our lives only to walk out later on. It happens all the time.You never truly know people and what their intentions are, but what we must learn to do is how to acknowledge the fact that not all friendships or relationship was destined to last. People will come and go, but not everyone you lose is a loss. A closed door can mean that another one has been opened; it’s all about acceptance, not rejection.
We humans often desire the things that are not meant for us. Our conscience might prick us multiple times, and we might receive various signs and signals which tell us that something is not going to work out, but YET, we keep enduring and wasting precious time.
Don’t get me wrong; I don’t support an “I don’t care attitude” towards relationships or goals. It’s indeed okay to fight for someone you love or something you believe in, but at some point, you have to realise that the best option is to accept fate. Stop chasing after a shadow. Let go and let God.
Asides relationships, other phases in life can come to an end and leave us absolutely distraught. Maybe losing a successful business, or getting fired from a great job or position. It’s hard, but you never know, it might be for the better. Many things go wrong in life and we tend to become confused as to why it’s happening; but we need to remember that everything, good or bad, happens for a reason. You may never understand God’s wisdom, but all you need to do is simply trust His will.
Keep an open mind and acknowledge when somebody has walked out of your life, and accept it when a phase has come to an end. Don’t waste time fighting for something that was not meant to be. Instead, prepare for what’s coming next; something better and more promising.
- Make the most out of every phase
Just because nothing lasts forever does not mean that you shouldn’t enjoy the ‘nothings’.
Make the most of your school years, make the most of your friendships, make the most of your holidays and make the most of life in general. Smile through the hard times and smile even harder through the good. Live like there’s no tomorrow. You are not immortal; you are going to die someday.
Whatever stage you have found yourself in at this very moment, ensure that you are making the most of it, because you’re not going to be in that stage forever.
Make every second count and don’t take the gift we call life for granted. Remember, the moment your life’s clock finally stops ticking, there really is no going back.
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens. -Ecclesiastes 3:1