As I mark another birthday today, I thought I should share with you 18 brief lessons in which I’ve learnt in the past 18 years.
It’s a blessing to grow in age, but its way more important to grow in the mind. Our mental capacity is what separates us from being a child and being an adult. I’m glad I’ve been able learn some valuable lessons as the years go by, and take notes as I go along. Here are some of them so far :)
- Always involve God. A life led without Him is bound to go astray. I have learnt to put God in the forefront and include him in everything I do, and His wonders in my life are becoming more and more visible by the day. Never think you can do it all on your own, because you can’t. Proverbs 3:6 says, “In everything you do, put God first, and he will direct you and crown your efforts with success.”
- Prayer works – there is nothing God cannot do. Give all your worries to Him and sleep.
- Expectation is the root of all heartache – being a good person does not guarantee that others would be good to you as well. Stop expecting.
- Eat well – good health is an incomparable gift.
- Do not beat yourself up over your past. You’re human; be open to corrections and be willing to do better.
- Invest in yourself. You are never too young to start something, do something, and change something. Start doing meaningful things with your life now; time is going.
- Pay your tithes and give to others. It is always better to give than to receive. Blessings will come back in a million folds.
- Be wary of what you say with your mouth. Words are more powerful than you think. A Belgian proverb says, “Dip your tongue in wisdom, then give counsel.”
- Do not be deceived by what you see on social media. None of it is real. I am so glad I discovered this because I was once so caught up in idolizing certain people and envying their “lives”, not knowing that half of what I saw was bogus. A mesmerizing instagram feed full of luxurious cars and expensive items does not guarantee that the user’s life is ‘perfect’. Stop envying others through social media. Remember, people only show you what they want you to see.
(Watch Essena Oneil’s little revelation here to understand better.)
- Always be grateful for what you have. People out there have it worse.
- Stop trying to make friends with the “rich and pretty”. You will not go far by befriending cool people with empty heads. Make friends with those who have vision. They climb; you climb.
- Comparing yourself to others is the first step towards living a miserable life. Trust me. Your individuality is a beautiful thing only if you embrace it entirely.
- It’s okay to have few friends. Only worry about those who worry about you.
- Watch the news more often. Half of us don’t know what’s going on in Syria or how bad global warming has become. Stay in the loop so that a national catastrophe won’t take you by surprise.
- There is a life outside your phone – a beautiful one at that. Discover and appreciate your surroundings; nature is breathtaking.
- Spend more time with your parents; they aren’t getting any younger.
- Filter your circle. Eliminate friends who compete with you instead complement you, and friends who forget you at your worst but remember you when you’re balling. You can do better.
- Lastly, always remember to show love – the world really really needs it.
As I grow by the grace of God, I will continue to post the life lessons I learn by the year. Thanks for reading, now go out and shine!
Here’s a special shout out to my birthday mates: my idol Jhene Aiko and my favourite footballer Theo Walcott ♥ #Team3:16